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Cherie Doyen PTSD and Trauma
As the Buddhist teach detachment from the stickine As the Buddhist teach detachment from the stickiness of emotion here in the west we have been taught to live there. We have accepted them as truth. In reality they are a culmination of past experience and have little to do with the moment. When we are creating boundaries we are holding tight to the story and deeply entrenched in the goo! #ptsd #trauma #healingptsd #healingtrauma #boundaries #ptsdandtraumaresolution
Boundaries have us in retreat or defense mode. Cha Boundaries have us in retreat or defense mode. Change happening in the distinctions. Which way is the energy flowing? When we are building the boundaries or the fences we are in the energy is flowing backwards. We have an expectation of the outcome so we enter with the need to defend. Real change happens when we stand in what is and make our choices real time. We aren't circling backwards in Reaction. We are in action.
When we are in defense mode we are operating from When we are in defense mode we are operating from a level of fear. When we are operating from fear and in fight flight we are struggling in every direction. The solve??? New and different choices. What the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different outcome. Toss the ball into their court and do something different! #PTSD #Trauma #healingptsd #healing trauma #boundaries #choices
When we are rising out of systemic abuse we have t When we are rising out of systemic abuse we have to consider the idea that we have a whole stock pile of words around what we don't want and what we don't like... We can recreate the same pictures for people with our words consistently. Yet when we try to describe our wants and needs, what we love, what we enjoy the words fall empty and flat... if you can find any at all. So here's the game use your words to creat what you want to see in your future and leave the need to defend Boundaries to someone else. When we build walls to keep someone out we have to live behind them with the need to defend! This is a game of choices.
When we are rising out of systemic abuse we have t When we are rising out of systemic abuse we have to consider the idea that we have a whole stock pile of words around what we don't want and what we don't like... We can recreate the same pictures for people with our words consistently. Yet when we try to describe our wants and needs, what we love, what we enjoy the words fall empty and flat... if you can find any at all. So here's the game use your words to creat what you want to see in your future and leave the need to defend Boundaries to someone else. When we build walls to keep someone out we have to live behind them with the need to defend! This is a game of choices.
What if rather than fighting to defend our boundar What if rather than fighting to defend our boundaries we looked deep inside to find clarity around what is acceptable for you... What you want from your life and relationships. Here we throw the umbrella words like peace and intimacy or kindness away and decide what that looks like. Really. Our world and our experiences are built by the words we choose to describe it... by the clarity we have in the description. People cross... Bound are we's because they can!
So here's the thing. If you are loving your neighb So here's the thing. If you are loving your neighbor as yourSelf and your allowing yourSelf to be a doormat you're not loving yourSelf too much, Right? Not to mention the requirements on the opposite end of that tug of war. Should the abuser be held to the same standard. I so often see the denial that keeps life in the upside down for families with a predator amongst them. Hiding your eyes doses not change the fact that people are being hurt and the one that is paying the price day in and day out is the victim. Family denial is a thing! Forgiveness is NOT denial! It is instead a relinquishment of the need for something to be different... All of the way around!
The Buddhist speak about a need for detachment fro The Buddhist speak about a need for detachment from emotion. What if the true meaning is a detachment from the emotional charge in our responses. When we can reach a level of indifference and stand present in what is the should's, would's and could's fall away!
When we are rising out of traumatic cycles. We hav When we are rising out of traumatic cycles. We have to look closely at what is true. When the actions stay the same while the words say I am sorry? Well the definition of insanity lies in the expectation of something different while the actions stay the same.
True forgiveness is about removing the want for so True forgiveness is about removing the want for something different and giving your Self permission to walk in another direction!
Forgiveness is never at the expense of ones Self. Forgiveness is never at the expense of ones Self. Nor should it ever negate the personal responsibility of the one causing harm.
We should never have to sacrifice self respect or We should never have to sacrifice self respect or self love to find forgiveness. Forgiveness is about the release of the need for approval or the need for acceptance. Forgiveness is about you!
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